You know how they say, "Opposites attract"? Nothing could be more true when it comes to my marriage. I live somewhere in the clouds and worry very little about a lot...while my husband is planted firmly on the ground and will consider a thousand different things at any given second.
Take going to the movies for instance. When he and I sit down, he immediately begins to scan. He starts by locating the exit signs, then plans through his mind in case of an emergency. Next he looks around our immediate area and surrounding environment to ensure of no threats or situations.
All this mind you, while I'm sitting beside him thinking, "Yay, popcorn".
The same held true for our 40th birthdays. When mine came around, no party could be big enough. Family and friends together with food and fun was my idea of the perfect day. (Rainbow flying unicorns were optional.)
Adam? Well, when planning for his 40th, he said only this..."I want nothing. No party, no trip, no surprise. A cake with my family would be perfect and that's all."
hmph.
Not exactly what I had planned.
Round and round we'd go, but he wouldn't budge. It was hard for me to imagine a big birthday with no big celebration.
It wasn't my birthday though, it was his.
Yesterday was the day and we did exactly what he asked. We gathered together as a family for cake and ice cream...but I had an idea.
Take going to the movies for instance. When he and I sit down, he immediately begins to scan. He starts by locating the exit signs, then plans through his mind in case of an emergency. Next he looks around our immediate area and surrounding environment to ensure of no threats or situations.
All this mind you, while I'm sitting beside him thinking, "Yay, popcorn".
The same held true for our 40th birthdays. When mine came around, no party could be big enough. Family and friends together with food and fun was my idea of the perfect day. (Rainbow flying unicorns were optional.)
Adam? Well, when planning for his 40th, he said only this..."I want nothing. No party, no trip, no surprise. A cake with my family would be perfect and that's all."
hmph.
Not exactly what I had planned.
Round and round we'd go, but he wouldn't budge. It was hard for me to imagine a big birthday with no big celebration.
It wasn't my birthday though, it was his.
Yesterday was the day and we did exactly what he asked. We gathered together as a family for cake and ice cream...but I had an idea.
My parents were with us and I asked them to stay. Adam didn't know it, but I'd booked a room at a fancy smanshy hotel nearby that was surrounded by stores, restaurants and a movie theatre.
I secretly packed a bag for both of us, hid everything in the car then simply said, "It's time to go".
This would've been exciting if it happened to me...but with Adam? Well, not so much. His face turned white.
"Go where? What are we doing?"
"Don't worry about it. Just get in the car."
"But where? Where are we going?"
"Don't worry about it. Just get in the car."
You could actually see his mind race and the simple fact that he didn't have control of the situation, made him completely uncomfortable.
It was a short car ride that seemed very long.
Finally reaching the hotel, his color began to return as he realized I wasn't taking him cross country, or to a surprise party with tons of people. It was just the two of us, with dinner and a movie and night alone.
It turned out to be a wonderful time.
The craziest thing about it all was when this morning came and nothing woke us up. No alarm clock blaring, no kids screaming, no dog barking, no herds running...just peace and quiet.
In the end, forty years seems like a long time to be on this earth but it's really not. There's so much more to do and learn about ourselves and each other. You have to take chances and have fun, while still considering and respecting the feelings of those that you love.
No matter if you're with your exact carbon copy or your complete polar opposite in this life...it's not going to matter. It will always be a wonderful journey as long as you have each other, making you the perfect match.
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I secretly packed a bag for both of us, hid everything in the car then simply said, "It's time to go".
This would've been exciting if it happened to me...but with Adam? Well, not so much. His face turned white.
"Go where? What are we doing?"
"Don't worry about it. Just get in the car."
"But where? Where are we going?"
"Don't worry about it. Just get in the car."
You could actually see his mind race and the simple fact that he didn't have control of the situation, made him completely uncomfortable.
It was a short car ride that seemed very long.
Finally reaching the hotel, his color began to return as he realized I wasn't taking him cross country, or to a surprise party with tons of people. It was just the two of us, with dinner and a movie and night alone.
It turned out to be a wonderful time.
The craziest thing about it all was when this morning came and nothing woke us up. No alarm clock blaring, no kids screaming, no dog barking, no herds running...just peace and quiet.
In the end, forty years seems like a long time to be on this earth but it's really not. There's so much more to do and learn about ourselves and each other. You have to take chances and have fun, while still considering and respecting the feelings of those that you love.
No matter if you're with your exact carbon copy or your complete polar opposite in this life...it's not going to matter. It will always be a wonderful journey as long as you have each other, making you the perfect match.
CLICK below each day to VOTE so we can move UP! Thank You!
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