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6/19/2014

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If you read this blog with any regularity, then you know my wife.  She can make you burst into laughter, then fall into tears only words apart.  If you’ve caught any of her more recent posts, you know that she had back surgery yesterday.

First things first, the surgery went “fantastic”.  Speaking with the doctor immediately after the surgery, he confirmed that she actually had a ruptured disk (which caused all the pain), a herniated disk, and a bone spur.  He was confident that the procedure would quickly resolve Beatty’s pain in her arm and back, and optimistic that the numbness/tingling down her arm and hand would disappear.  Spending the night with her in the hospital, she confirmed, aside from the back and neck pain from the procedure itself, her arm pain and numbness/tingling are no more!  The surgery was a huge success.

Next, since Beatty is otherwise indisposed, I asked her if I could fill in as a “guest blogger” for a day or two.  I figured since I have a front-row seat to Beatty’s blog, it’d be okay to give my perspective.

Confronted with recent events, Beatty and I took the opportunity to reflect a little more on our lives.  Sure, thousands of surgeries happen daily worldwide, but the vast majority of time, it’s to somebody else.  Once in a while, though, your number is called, and it becomes your turn to go under the knife.  To some people, it’s really not a big deal; to others, (and I fall into this category), it gives a moment to pause and reflect…on life…and death. 

It’s in this dichotomy; I do admit that I find comfort in the trivial world of sports.   Anyone who knows me knows that I love the San Francisco 49ers and San Antonio Spurs.  And anyone who follows sports knows how agonizingly and excruciatingly cruel the past few years have been for both the Niners and the Spurs.  Both teams have come heartbreakingly close to winning their championships, only to lose in the end. 

And yet, I remind myself – it’s all a matter of perspective.  Who wouldn’t be thrilled to have the incredible success that both teams have experienced?  Sure, they’ve come up ever so short on the brightest of stages, but isn’t being one of the best good enough?  Or must we win it all – to be declared the champion – to be called a success?  What’s your definition of success? 

Then there’s this perspective: I remind myself that I’m only a fan (a pretty big fan as Beatty would attest).  And, it’s only a game.  Because for those who come across life and death on a daily basis: patients battling disease, the doctors and nurses who work with them, policemen, firemen, our nation’s Armed Forces, that inspire us all.  

The Spurs played for another chance at a championship just a few days ago.  Call it redemption or a mission from last year’s gut-wrenching loss…call it whatever you want.  Simply said, they destroyed the Miami Heat in historic fashion.   Many called their performance “epic”.  As a Spurs fan, it was beautiful to watch as the team came together selflessly.

It’s been said that in the Spurs’ locker room, is the Stonecutter’s Creed, which translates remarkably well in life. 

“When nothing seems to help, I go and look at a stonecutter hammering away at his rock perhaps a hundred times without as much as a crack showing in it.  Yet at the hundred and first blow, it will split in two, and I know that it was not that blow that did it, but all that had gone before.”

When you toil so painstakingly – in life, with your family or your friends, in your careers, spiritually - don’t lose sight; keep toiling away; keep at it.  The toils are not in vain; the effort will be worth it.

It’s so easy to feel the victim.  It’s easy to complain.  Why do I have to get back/neck surgery?  It’s easy to feel sorry for yourself.  And it’s easy to make excuses.  Simply put, it’s much easier to take the easy way out.  BUT… 

As much as we can attest that life is incredibly challenging and demanding, continue to stay the course.  Stay true to yourself.  Stay true to your values, to your faith and your loved ones.  Continue striking the stone…

To the doctors, nurses, and the entire medical staff, Thank You.  My sincerest appreciation for all that you do daily, and for taking care of my wife.  To our family and friends, my deepest heartfelt thanks for your continued love, support, prayers, fellowship, and friendship.  To our four children, I give you all that I am.  And finally, to my wife, the heaven-sent angel who took my breath away a long time ago, I adore you and am eternally yours.  Best wishes for a speedy, healthy, happy, and blessed recovery. 

16 Comments
Penny
6/18/2014 11:15:06 pm

Thanks for letting us know how Beatty is doing and thanks for sharing your beautiful perspective!

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Teresa
6/18/2014 11:19:28 pm

Adam, thank you for the update and what a wonderful job you did with Beatty's blog today! She is truly blessed to have you! Love and hugs from Ohio!

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Becki Mikola
6/18/2014 11:22:47 pm

Thank you for the update! Please let

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Tracy
6/18/2014 11:32:17 pm

Adam, great job and thanks so much keeping us updated on your beautiful wife's surgery and how she is doing. So glad that she was able to feel a difference already. Hugs and lots of love from her Ohio friends! Love you Beatty!

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dyane kreger
6/19/2014 12:55:40 am

Adam, we were stationed at Wichita Falls when my husband was the commander. I spoke to you when your first child was born and was so impressed by your devotion to God and your family. I am happy to see it is just as strong today! God Bless all of you! ☺

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Chris Kurz
6/18/2014 11:40:08 pm

Glad to hear everything went well! Get well soon Bea Bop!

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Jody Overton
6/19/2014 12:13:03 am

Thanks so much for the update! Hugs and love to your beautiful bride!!!

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Cynthia Thurman
6/19/2014 12:28:59 am

Adam, thanks for the update. So happy to hear that the surgery was a success, Beatty! Hugs.

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Julie Lowthorpe
6/19/2014 12:59:53 am

Thank you for the updat Adam. Tell Beatty the Lows say hello and glad you are starting to feel better. Also if you need anything ever we are here for ya.

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Bertha Dusenberry link
6/19/2014 01:19:42 am

Thank God all went well.Give Bea xoxo from us.She is dear to us as is the entire Adams family..We love you.. Take Care sweet Bea.You have a terrific husband to help you recover along the way. Love to you...

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Ryan Lehman
6/19/2014 01:37:14 am

I hope for a speedy recovery. I also want to say after having two back surgeries myself. Make sure you do exactly what the Doc says you can do or you can end up having a second one like i did. Get well.

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Sandy
6/19/2014 11:39:28 am

Hugs & kisses to you both, along w/ grateful answered prayers for Beatty's surgical outcome! Hope your ankle is mending well, too. Thank you for keeping us updated. Miss you guys....

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jamu kuat link
8/27/2014 05:04:01 am

Hi, hopefully success always

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Libby Watkins
6/19/2014 12:46:43 pm

Thank you for the update on Beatty. You have all been in my thoughts and prayers. It us wonderful to read your words and to know that who was once our Beatty is loved and well-cared for.

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Arifa
7/4/2014 02:09:31 am

That was so well written.

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essay writing link
11/9/2014 05:33:00 am

It so nice of you Adam to write on behalf of betty and yes I know how charming and wonderful she is. I hope she recovers soon and write back as a blogger not that you don’t write good, but it has become kind of daily ritual for me to read her blogs. Recover soon Betty we all are missing you and your posts.

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