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To the Young Mom at the Grocery Store...

10/15/2014

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     I pushed my grocery cart into the cool air and saw you park your van in front of the store.  You needed to drop a movie off at a Redbox in front of you and I couldn't help but inwardly smile at your messy pony tail, sweat pants and exasperated look.  
     Realizing that you left your toddler in his car seat while you jumped out, you thought you'd only be a second, leaving your car door open with intentions of jumping right back in.  What you didn't plan on though, was how quickly he'd climb out of his seat and pull his door open in the van.  
    Slowing my cart, I quickly surveyed the parking lot as panic struck with an oncoming truck.  Your little one was about to crawl out on his side, with the truck on its way.  The driver would never have a chance to slow down.  In that split second, you turned around to head back.
    That's how fast it was.  That's how quickly it all happened.  I prepared to run and get your son but I didn't need to.  You shot to him before his little feet hit the ground.
    He was fine.  You were fine.  Your look was of pure exasperation and I thought you would start to cry.  I felt your look glaze over me with an expression of, "You have no idea how hard this is."
   I simply smiled back with my cart in tow...and gave a nod of understanding. 
   Then something happened.  An older woman walked towards us with a scowl on her face and a tsk, tsk shake of her head.   
    Her glare was directed directly at you with a look of complete disapproval.  She saw what had happened and wanted to make quite sure that you knew how greatly you were in the wrong.
    It did nothing to support you.  It didn't help the situation in anyway and I watched as you fell a little deeper into your defeat.  
    I'm sure the woman had raised children of her own and did everything right, without a day of despair or wrongdoing.  I'm sorry that she made you feel that way and I want you to know that there is no such thing as a perfect mother.  
    You will make mistakes.  Some will be big, some small.  Some will scare you to death, others will have you laugh until it hurts.  That's called being a parent.
     No matter what, don't let the negative and judgmental people get you down.  They're always going to be there, telling you what you're doing wrong and how you should be better.  Try to focus on the good though. 
     Surround yourself with people who will support you and love you no matter what.
     Even though it's hard to believe, it will get easier.  Just hang in there and get through one day at a time...and try not to let the bad ones get you down.  
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9 Comments
Andrea Harper link
10/15/2014 12:12:40 pm

Love this! As mommas, we should build each other up, rather than tear each other down. I just started a blog about my fertility journey and hope for it to be as successful as yours one day!

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Beatty link
10/15/2014 12:48:36 pm

Andi, your blog is AWESOME!!! Wow! I look forward to reading more! Thanks for writing! God Bless! XO

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Andrea Harper
10/15/2014 12:51:35 pm

Thank you so much! You've made my night! Thanks for reading! I am so new and a little clueless to blogging! I really would love for it to be successful. If you have any advice on how to grow it, I would LOVE to hear it. :)

Beatty link
10/15/2014 01:07:42 pm

That'd be Great Andi! I'll send you an email if you'd want and we can chat! :)

Jessica link
10/15/2014 10:34:38 pm

I always smile at the other moms in the stores with small kids, behaving or not. We have to support each other. We also have to catch each other's children as they head dive out of the shopping carts while you turn around for three seconds to find the 'right' box of cereal on the wall 'o' sugar.

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Beatty link
10/28/2014 01:45:45 pm

Ha! YES! You're so right, Jessica! There have been many a day that my children have been under and over a shopping cart! It's so nice to know that there are Moms like YOU to be there for support and compassion. Thank You for writing! :)

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Ros Emely link
10/20/2014 12:35:50 pm

Loved reading this! It happens more often than we think other women looking down at others specially young mommies. I am a young mother of three and the stares do happen and it really bothers me. We have to support each other as mothers and help one another not bring each other down.

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Beatty link
10/28/2014 01:43:11 pm

I completely agree Ros! We need to support each other and stick together. We're all going to have good days and bad. I appreciate your comment and am glad to read your thoughts. Love to you and your three little ones! XO

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Astrologer in India link
11/16/2014 06:16:13 pm

Great blog post, however only a few of the points were actually treated really good,I definitely enjoyed what you had to say. Keep heading because you undoubtedly bring a new voice to this subject.

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